Children
What does it mean to have children? Do you own your children or do they own you? One keeps working most of the time to support his family turning down many life paths cause he don't wanna waste his money or to secure the family. He keeps banking the money and keep working and banking and banking.
When your child is young and he asks for something be it a toy or clothes or a bicycle you immediately go and buy it for him. You sort your life in favor of the child and feel great about your fatherhood.
Then when you son/daughter grow up to teenage and they wanna do something you don't accept u just shout/yell and refuse it and probably you'll say "your living under my roof and as long as you do, it gonna be my way and not yours" when your son makes a big mistake (from your point of view) you beat him shamelessly thinking that its your right to do so since he's your son!
What does the words "my son" mean? does it mean you own him and thus your free to do as you wish does that give you the right to choose his life? just coz we pay the expense of his food/clothes/education does this gives us the right to run/control their lives?
And if parents think so, why? cause they failed in their own lives (deep inside them) and they want to re-create their lives in their children?
How would you raise your children? i see this a silly question, why do you think yourself as god over your children? why don't you give them the right to choose what they want, what they wanna do with their own lives?
Yet its true a baby cant take care of himself and needs his parents in his early stages of his/her life and i think thats the only time you have controle you only got 16-18 years to play your game. And if you play wrongly, its is your child will suffer the rest of his/her life.
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posted by Refaat | 8:37 PM
1 Comments:
While what you say is true, however is a major downside to it.
The parents wastes their lives for the children, they arrange their life according to the children. And when the parents grow old near 60 of age they discover that they've missed LIFE and all whats left are the children which are no longer children but adults that have thier own agenda and life.
The parents wastes their life for the child and when they grow old they expect the child to arrange his life according to their whim.
So they wasted thier life for the child and when he grows up they want him to give up his life for them. Tell me why cant each one life his own life?
If you want examples I'll give you a dozen: Mothers that dont want thier lone child to get married and move to his own house - Fathers that insists that children take the same career as the fater - Parents that refuse migration of thier sons totaly - etc
That is the case in Egypt and most of the arab countries, In the west they understand the child can live his own life when they reach 16-18.
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